Working behind the bar is not just about serving drinks—it’s an art that demands both physical endurance and a knack for social interaction. While bartenders aim to provide a pleasant experience, patrons can make or break a bartender’s shift with their behavior.
To ensure your next night out is enjoyable for everyone, consider avoiding some common mistakes that can irk your bartender.
Getting a Bartender’s Attention the Wrong Way
One of the most frustrating behaviors for bartenders is when patrons wave money or call out to get noticed. Instead, a simple presence at the bar should suffice to indicate you’re ready for a drink. If necessary, a nod or eye contact is a more courteous way to signal you’re waiting.
Being Unprepared When Ordering
During busy times, it’s important to use your waiting time wisely and decide on your drink order. Avoid losing your place in line by turning around to consult friends or declaring uncertainty when it’s your turn to order.
Ordering Without an ID
Not having your ID is a surefire way to not get served. Bartenders are not willing to risk their jobs or face legal issues by serving drinks without proper identification.
Requesting Personal Music
If a bar doesn’t have a jukebox, chances are they aren’t interested in playing personal playlists. Bartenders are there to serve drinks, not to DJ, so it’s best not to ask them to change the music or play specific songs.
Modifying Signature Cocktails
If you’re interested in experimenting with cocktail recipes, it’s best done at home. In a crowded bar, ordering a drink as it appears on the menu simplifies the process and avoids confusion, ensuring you get what you actually want.
Using Only First Names for Tabs
When setting up a tab, providing your last name can speed up service. While you might think you’re the only person with your first name, it’s more common than you might expect.
Expecting Bartenders to Remember Your Order
With a busy bar, asking for “another one” might not yield the desired result. It’s better to know your order and repeat it to avoid confusion.
Occupying Excessive Space
Be considerate of space at the bar. Avoid spreading out unnecessarily, and take your empty glasses with you to help keep the area tidy.
Being Vague About the Menu
Bartenders can’t list every available item. Instead, ask specific questions like “What pilsners do you have?” or “What gins do you have?” to get a more helpful response.
Leaving Only Verbal Tips
While compliments are appreciated, they don’t pay the bills. If you appreciate the service, show it with a generous tip.
This story was originally published on January 7, 2023, and most recently updated on July 21, 2026.
